Friday, October 16, 2009

Advice versus Order

Some people like to give advices to other people. It is a very good action to advice others especially when you do this due to your love to the person you advice.

Unfortunately, some people think that as I gave you advice then you should follow this advice; if you didn't then you are mistaken. Then let us discuss some points about advices:

Point #1:

Don't give advice in front of a number of people just advice the person when you are alone with each other.

It is advice not order, just say advice in a constructive way then leave the implementation to the person you advice.

Point #3:
Give advice in a kind way with nice words and usually remember the verse:
{ادع إلى سبيل ربك بالحكمة والموعظة الحسنة، وجادلهم بالتي هي أحسن}النحل: 125

Point #4:
Remember that the person you advice is a human. Humans never like to feel guilty so when you give advice give it in a positive way not in a blaming way.

Point #5:

Smile while talking, not a gloating smile But a love smile